GOD'S LOVE IS SPOKEN of in a variety of ways in the Bible.
In some passages God's love is directed toward his elect.
He loves them and not others (e.g., Deut. 4:37; 7:7-8; Mal. 1:2). But if we think of the love of God as invariably restricted to his elect, we will soon distort other themes: his gracious provision of "common grace" (Is he not the God who sends his rain upon the just and upon the unjust? [Matt. 5:45]), his mighty forbearance (e.g., Rom. 2:4), his pleading with rebels to turn and repent lest they die, for he takes no pleasure in the death of the wicked (e.g., Ezek. 33:11). On the other hand, if this were all that the Bible says about the love of God, God would soon be reduced to an impotent, frustrated lover who has done all he can, poor chap. That will never account for the loving initiative of effective power bound up with the first passages cited, and more like them.
There are yet other ways the Bible speaks of the love of God. One of them dominates in John 15:9-11. Here the Father's love for us is conditional upon obedience. Jesus enjoins his disciples to obey him in exactly the same way that he obeys his Father, so that they may remain in his love: "If you obey my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have obeyed my Father's commands, and remain in his love" (15:10).
The context shows that this is not telling us how people become Jesus' followers. Rather, assuming that his hearers are his followers, Jesus insists that there is a relational love at stake that must be nurtured and preserved. In exactly the same way, the love of the Father for the Son says nothing about how that relation originated (!), it merely reflects the nature of that relationship. The Father's love for the Son is elsewhere said to be demonstrated in his "showing" the Son everything, so that the Son does all the Father does and receives the same honor as the Father (John 5:19-23); the Son's love for the Father is demonstrated in obedience (14:31). As my children remain in my love by obeying me and not defying me, so Jesus' followers remain in his love. Of course, there is a sense in which I shall always love my children, regardless of what they do. But there is a relational element in that love that is contingent upon their obedience.
Thus Jesus mediates the Father's love to us (15:9), and the result of our obedience to him is great joy (15:11). "Keep yourselves in God's love" (Jude 21).
Exodus 36; John 15; Proverbs 12; Ephesians 5