Beloved child of God, listen to your Father's heart and his ways for you in Galatians 5:22-23,25. "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control... Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit."
Galatians 5:16 says "Live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the sinful nature." Romans 8:5 affirms this. "Those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires."
Ponder the immense self-control of Jesus. Isaiah 53:7 says, "He was oppressed and afflicted, yet he did not open his mouth; he was led like a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before her shearers is silent, so he did not open his mouth." When he was abused, whipped, and crucified, he uttered only forgiveness. He was taunted and insulted and did not retaliate, not one word of bitterness. When he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly (1 Peter 2:23).
Hear the Word of God in Hebrews 12:1-3. "Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart."
Jesus is the model of biblical self-control. Let Jesus live in you the joy set before him in all circumstances of opposition, criticism, and shame. He is the source of your resistance to every temptation to surrender to sinful words and actions (Heb 5:8-9).
Your greatest weapon is the presence of the Spirit of God in you to do your Father's will. Be blessed with victory that comes from having the nature of Christ in your heart and spirit. Be blessed with his training in righteousness (2 Tim 3:16) which yields peace for those who are conformed to it (Heb 12:11). Be blessed to apply the same determination of an athlete for physical exercise to spiritual disciplines for training in godliness (1 Tim 4:8; 2 Tim 2:5). Be blessed with being in control of your flesh and your mind and being free of the control of the appetites of the world, the flesh, and the devil. Be blessed with a disposition that is even-tempered and does not react to self-indulgence, senselessness, and selfishness.
Be blessed with Proverbs 16:32. "Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city." Be blessed to rise to be all God created you to be in him.
Be blessed with the fruit of the Spirit's control that he produces in you,
because he lives in you (Gal 5:23).